listening is a practiced skill that takes years and years to master. as a child, listening is difficult because who really wants to clean up their toys? as a teenager it is difficult because no one around you could possibly understand what you are going through. as an adult it is difficult because you have experienced so much more and you want to share what worked for you.
i work in a pre-school room with children 6 months to 24 months. if you've never met a child before this may be difficult to understand; children do not exactly go about the easiest way to tell you what they need. they cry, wine, kick, hit, scratch, laugh, make faces and lay there looking helpless. in other words they require a lot of patience aka listening skills. listening to a child mean you understand what their cries mean, you understand what their laughs mean, when they babble you understand they are telling you something important. children are a great tool for teaching adults how to listen.
surprisingly, even adults have trouble telling each other how they are feeling, they say one thing but their actions say another thing. if you do not have the keen ability to listen to them you might miss very important clues to explain their actions.
deep listening allows people to feel validated. when people feel validated they feel understood.
go, and LISTEN.